Capítulo 2. PERDIÉNDOSE.

 

Esta foto que subo me da pie para poner un trozo de la película "Alma (Soul)" que habla de lo que  los  guionistas interpretan como alma perdida. Por supuesto no es artículo de fe y, por lo que sabemos, esto no deja de ser una visión corta de lo que se explica desde el mundo newtoniano, pero como broma vale. Aquí se iguala el concepto de estar perdido con el de estar obsesionado. En una interpretación simplista: los personajes que van en un barco del tipo de carabela española se dedican a rescatar almas "perdidas", es decir, obsesionadas. Bonito cuento

CHAPTER 2

GETTING LOST

For many years, I worried about earthbound spirits. When we die, our spirit is released from our body. It contains the energy and nature of our soul, as well as a lifetime’s worth of experience. Usually, our spirit passes over to our life between lives—but not always. Sometimes, we become stuck in the earth plane—usually when we’re tangled up in the trauma or confusion of our death.

Early in my career, one of my clients became fearful during our session. She recounted the terror of being mortally stabbed. This occurred in a previous life when she had been incarnated as male. He refused to accept his death. Instead of ascending to his life between lives, his spirit found itself trapped in an ongoing fight for survival.

Later, many of my clients reported similar traumas, which they relived with an emotional intensity, making the death seem vividly real. Once the pain and terror were released, they felt light, peaceful, and liberated. When I investigated further, I realised they had released aspects of themselves who had become stuck at the end of their previous lives.

I wondered why so many spirits became trapped at death in some sort of suspended state that seemed like purgatory. Could there be a flaw in the makeup of the earth system? Eventually, I encountered clients whose regressions helped me make sense of this confusion.

We come to earth having forgotten the details of our previous incarnations, which is commonly called “the amnesia.” But not everything is forgotten. How could we evolve if that was the case? Something must be retained. In this chapter, we explore how this works.

We become lost by cutting ourselves off from Source and others to varying degrees. In fact, we are always connected to these higher energies, just as our phone connects us to the outside world. We decide who we call, how often, and whether to take a call or not. We can ask for help or go it alone. In this analogy, regardless of our choice, the connection is still there. It is the same in the nonphysical world. Lost spirits can forget or refuse their connection to Source. Focused on survival, some are still fighting for their lives and others are lost and confused, unaware that their body has died.

The cases in this chapter are about people who have been lost. People coming to see me have been lost and are now in the process of re-establishing healthy relationships with themselves, others, and Source rather than descending further into darkness. However, their stories can show us how souls become lost and stay lost. We learn how their choices affected their subsequent lives. We also gain a glimpse of how souls emerge, although this is addressed in more detail in later chapters.

Lost from Shock

Our personality, our beliefs, and our focus shape our experience of dying. For example, people who cling tightly to the material world will intensely resist their death. This tension can bind the spirit to the earth plane even after the body has long since turned to dust.

During past life and life between lives regressions, we relive at least one death. Our reaction to dying becomes clear to us. Some of us accept death, while others fight back. Some don’t want to die, and others feel shocked and confused. When we resist death we leave a residue of energy—an earthbound spirit—which can influence the trajectory of our subsequent lives.

In her regression, Freda was taken back to a past life specifically to release an energetic remnant left over from her death in that life. Previously, she had harboured a pervasive sense of feeling lost, which had worsened over time.

In the early twentieth century past life, Freda was a teenager living in a Quaker community in the Midwest of the US. When a vicious storm came, she and her mother huddled together under a table. Freda reports what happened after a tornado suddenly struck.

Why am I here? I can’t work out where I am. I feel lost. I don’t know what is going on. Where is my mother? I cannot find her. I am confused.

Holding her mother tightly as they cowered underneath the kitchen table, Freda felt the terror rising in her chest when the house began to shake. She was so focused on riding out the storm, she did not even realize she had died. Her guides explain how this happens.

When the death is quick, we can go into a limbo state. It gives us an opportunity to calm down. The guides are watching. They know you are confused, and they want you to calm down on your own before you are aware of anything else.

I ask if there was a part of the young girl’s energy still stuck in the illusion of the Midwest until we did the regression.

Yes. That is why I asked, “Why am I here?” I was still stuck there. That is why we were taken to that life, to free me. It is like a memory, and now we are bringing in a new perspective.

When our spirit is lost, we can feel lost in our current life. Some people have trouble navigating, worrying about getting lost in their hometown or city. For example, some don’t know which direction is north. These clients usually tell me they have lost their way in life. I am not surprised when we discover one or more past lives where they died without knowing where to go, finding themselves stuck.

Fear Carried Over

Some beliefs humans hold are fundamentally faulty. For example, many people believe they are nothing more than their physical body, meaning they expect to experience nothing after they die. Even those with a concept of a creator can be trapped in an illusion, fearing they will be punished or sent to hell at the end of their life. Either view can create a substantial block to moving on after death, which then impacts their subsequent lives.

Because we create our reality, if we believe there is nothing after death, that is what we shall find: nothingness. Unfortunately, this is common. I have encountered hundreds of spirits caught in this state.

Linda never married and lives alone. Through her interest in past lives, she has established contact with her spirit guide. She knows some of her past lives have been traumatic. Before we begin her regression, she shares how she feels.

I am anxious, afraid of death. I am ruled by fear. I fear I have done something bad. There is a feeling in me that I have dabbled in the dark forces and done terrible things.

I suddenly died in a fire in one past life. In WWII, I was in the Resistance in France, and I was shot. I was the chief of an American Indigenous clan in another [life] when I was overpowered and killed by my current brother. I decided I would never want to be subjected to that again. That decision has affected me ever since. I am judgmental and shut down. My guide told me, “That decision has closed your heart.” I don’t want to stay closed. 

Making such an emphatic decision—“I shall never be overpowered by anyone again”—can imprint our soul and close our hearts. Once the soul is imprinted, the impact of that decision can carry over into subsequent lives. Being constantly vigilant for any hint of aggression creates a mindset of distrust—the opposite of an open heart. When we draw our boundaries so tight, we end up feeling anxious in many situations. While we may fend off aggressive people, we can also feel threatened by those who are simply self-confident, assertive, or decisive, not to mention those who hold views that contradict our beliefs. The intensity of our reaction toward others reflects the severity of our original trauma.

Linda has been affected in her current life by this decision to never be overpowered. Now she is taken to a past life where that decision also played out. In this life, Linda’s soul is a miner called Roberto.

To transition clients into a past life, I often suggest they move through a beautiful tunnel. When I suggest this to Linda at the beginning of her regression, she immediately feels afraid. I have inadvertently triggered her fear of being overwhelmed.

It’s like a railway tunnel. It is big enough for me to go through, but I feel like I am confined and trapped. Now it is too small to fit through, too enclosed to move. I don’t want to be in a narrow space where it feels like all is tumbling down on me. I feel like I am under the earth, underground, like in a coal mine. The earth is shaking with dirt and stones falling. The tunnel is collapsing. There is dust, and I am gasping for breath. I don’t think I am getting out of it.

After expressing words of support and safety, I ask Roberto if he died.

I don’t feel any different. But I am scared, scared of the nothingness. The nothingness is claustrophobic, awful. I feel panic wondering how to get out of here. It is like a hell, this overwhelming nothingness. I feel alone. I can’t imagine anyone being here. There is nothing but nothingness here.

Souls’ intentions play out. The power behind the past life decision to never be overpowered is fueled by fear. Roberto is focusing on what he does not want, on his fear of being crushed. We create what we fear. After his death, Roberto is experiencing his deepest fear.

When clients experience a sense of nothingness and isolation, I usually ask if they find anything positive about that state. When I ask this of Roberto, he gives me the answer I have heard so many times before. He says he feels safe here. He doesn’t like being used by others, and here he is alone. When I ask if there is anyone he can trust, he names another miner called Xuan. Xuan used to take him for a drink in the pub at the end of their shift.

I realize Xuan must have died many years ago and his spirit might have moved on, but I also know that Linda’s spirit guides have taken us to this past life to resolve the past trauma. I am confident that somehow Xuan will appear, so I ask Roberto if he would accept an invitation from Xuan.

I just got a sense of someone with red hair. It’s Xuan! It’s vague but I sense he is smiling. I am numb. Shocked. The change in circumstances was so unexpected. Xuan is taking me somewhere. I see green fields and a stream. I am happy here. [Crying.] I am glad to be out of the darkness. I feel relieved. I am washing all the dirt off me in the stream. Now I am sitting in the sun. Oh! I see a group of miners who died in the mine too. They are saying “It is okay now. We are out of that mine.” I am happy to be out of it.

Although Roberto wasn’t close to people, he was generous and respected by the community. People who need to feel in control of their relationships are often generous. Giving rather than receiving provides a sense of control and safety. Reciprocity is a common pattern, deeply held in the human psyche. When we accept a gift or help from others, we feel an underlying tension that remains until we reciprocate in some way. Generosity helps us feel safe because we sense the other owes us and is less likely to do us harm.

Linda’s soul became lost after she decided to never be overpowered again. This decision imprinted the soul and played out in subsequent lifetimes in various ways. Roberto wasn’t overpowered by people in his life, but he was overwhelmed by the mine collapsing and becoming lost in nothingness after his death. His spirit remained trapped until he was freed by Linda during the regression.

Overreacting: A Clue to the Past

Accessing a past life means bringing forgotten experiences into the present. During a regression, there is a rich interplay between the person we are now—our personality, the beliefs we hold, our current emotional state—and the person we were in that past life. We are different people, but unresolved experiences from our past lives still influence our current lives. Once our past life traumas are resolved, they no longer have a hold over us. If we are still haunted by traumatic lives, we can be negative, closed down, guilt ridden, or full of blame. If we have resolved some past life trauma while other traumas still remain, we may vacillate between joy and negativity depending on our current circumstances. When we live in the shadow of past life trauma, seemingly innocuous experiences can trigger us, bringing our past into the present.

Manuel, a teacher, was under the care of a doctor, psychiatrist, and psychologist, each greatly concerned with his state of mind and his suicide attempts. Over a span of three years, Manuel came to see me three times. After reviewing the notes of these sessions, I realized his suffering was a culmination of pain accumulated over several lifetimes. This was also evident from a statement he made in his first session.

I am fulfilling a purpose that goes over a number of lifetimes. It is a big project, and I won’t finish it this lifetime.

Manuel is gradually releasing his underlying sense of being flawed. In spite of his innocence in a past life and his current life, he has been unable to free himself of this sense of inadequacy that plagues him.

Two years before our first session, a disengaged, hostile student had falsely accused Manuel of hitting him. Manuel’s reaction to this libel was disproportionate. His headmaster referred the matter to the police, and even though the investigation that followed cleared him of any wrongdoing, Manuel remained angry, devastated, depressed, and suicidal. In desperation, he resigned from his teaching position. Before he came for his first session, he still suffered from depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideation.

During the regression, Manuel accessed a past life as a very young girl falsely charged with witchcraft. Although she protests her innocence, the elders of the village decide to conduct a trial by water. She is bound and thrown into a river. If she sinks, she will be deemed innocent and pulled out. If she floats, she will be condemned as guilty. Manuel reports what happens.

My hands are tied. I am up on the surface. [Pause.] Now I am going down, deeper and deeper. I don’t want them to kill me and believe I was guilty. I am determined to prove my innocence.

In reality, the young girl dies, but from her perspective she is still fighting to prove her innocence. Thus, she never accepts her death. Instead, her sense of injustice and her vow to survive trap her spirit in a timeless struggle for survival and absolution.

Being falsely accused at the school triggered Manuel’s unresolved trauma from this past life. I ask him if he can see any link between the past life and the present.

The headmaster had me trapped, and I had no way to escape. I can see I was resonating with this past injustice. I can feel how determined the drowning girl was to prove them wrong. She desperately wanted to survive.

So desperate to be proven innocent, the young girl failed to realize that proof is not really required when you know, in the depths of your soul, that you have done nothing wrong. As she sank down into the water, she sensed her guilt, shame, and worthlessness, accumulated from previous past lives. These feelings had surfaced in Manuel again when the student bore false witness against him. He, too, was desperate to clear his name.

Manuel values being strong-willed but wants to know how to let go of his old fears. I tell Manuel that even though the young girl yearned to survive, she drowned in front of the villagers. Now is the time to come to terms with her loss. Manuel takes one slow, deep breath, then finds himself back in the water.

Manuel’s body is shaking all over. I encourage him to keep breathing, slow and steady. He faces the harsh truth that the young girl died unfairly, drawing her feelings of disappointment into his heart. Only when he has fully embraced those feelings can he gradually let go of her life.

Now I am in a field of flowers. My guides are here, telling me they are proud of me. It feels good.

Rescuing the young girl from her watery grave gave Manuel some relief, and his medical professionals were surprised by his sudden improvement. But three years later he returned to see me, still struggling with suicidal ideation.

Sadly, his medical practitioners could only offer him limited help. He told me they panic when he shares his desperation and suicidal thoughts, which only isolates him more. They do not understand that he is suffering an existential crisis that will take several lifetimes to resolve.

As we have seen, profound experiences in one life can impact our later lives. When an event occurs in our current life that is similar to the trauma in the past life, it triggers the original reaction.

Post-traumatic stress, or PTSD, is the same. A serious event like a car accident, a sudden loss, or anything that causes a deep shock can shake us to the core. The emotional charge and imprinted memories of the trauma can stay with us and later trigger a reaction. If you ever find yourself overreacting to something another person says or does, perhaps you are still carrying some PTSD from old wounds. Being triggered tells you this trauma remains unresolved. The emotion that fuels your overreaction may come from trauma you experienced earlier in your current life, in a past life, or both.

Slipping Down

Avoiding the pain of trauma is a strategy with limited efficacy. By getting angry and isolating, we can evade our present suffering, but our wounds are not healed, and our past will continue to stalk us.

Nora came for a regression with a number of issues, including relationship problems, claustrophobia, and back pain. During the regression, she visited several past lives. In one she is an aunt looking after her deceased brother’s children. She loves the children but doesn’t care for their mother, whom she describes as unstable.

I can see some children who are sick and dying. I try to help them with some medicine. I feel completely desperate. I give them medicine, herbs I have picked. There is nothing more I can do to save them.

The priest comes. He is with the children when they are dying. Everyone is confused about what happened. Someone says they were poisoned. Now I am not sure if they were sick or poisoned. The widow and the rest of the family are pointing the finger at me.

I have to turn around and run. I try to hide at a friend’s place. I can feel the panic. I am in agony, despair, and misery. I am stuck right now. I am hiding. There is nowhere else to go. I know I will hang. I feel very scared.

They are going to hang me. I am angry. Very angry. I want revenge. I am making a curse. I will get her [the widow] in another life.

Nora was hanged for something she believes she didn’t do. She turned away from Source and invoked a diabolical power to avenge her death.

A curse is the opposite of atonement (at-one-ment). Hating someone and seeking revenge separates us from Source. It affects the soul. As we saw in the previous chapter, we are all ultimately “one.” At a fundamental level, a curse on others is a curse on ourselves. If we believe our curses have the power to hurt others, it follows that we believe others’ curses have the power to harm us. We find ourselves living in a menacing occult world.

Nora’s subsequent life shows how her act of separation plays out. In this life, she is a strongly built fisherman, who loves nothing more than being out on the sea fishing. Although he has a wife and two children, he likes being alone.

I am not at home often, and I can’t think of where I live because it is not important. I am not a good family man. It all feels a bit pointless.

I look at the children and I am scared. I am afraid something will happen to them. I feel anxiety, no control. I want to run away from the feeling. When I am away, I don’t feel that so much. I am terrified of my own children. I wasn’t prepared for those feelings when I had those children.

It is my job to be a fisherman, and I use it as my excuse to be out at sea. It is so peaceful. I don’t want to go home. I stay out late. I feel like I ended up never going home. I stayed out on the boat and abandoned my family. I let them drift away. I live on my boat and go into other ports.

The fisherman cannot emotionally connect with his family. He is now living in the menacing world inadvertently created by soul choices made in previous lives. The aunt whose nephews and nieces died felt powerless. She couldn’t save the children, nor could she save herself. She felt victimized by the rest of her family and couldn’t accept what happened. She resorted to anger, disconnecting from Source and seeking revenge.

Her lack of trust passed on to the fisherman. He avoids responsibility and caring for his family, believing that distance will protect him from the pain of losing them. This is a strategy many souls use after experiencing a deep hurt in a life where they felt overly responsible.

Nora receives some insight into these two past lives.

I ignored how my actions affected others, and that can be selfish. I think short-term rather than long-term, especially in relationships. I ignore those relationships with people I don’t care about or who are difficult. I dismiss the ones who are difficult to deal with.

As the fisherman, I was scared of caring for the children, of damaging them in some way and of being hurt. I didn’t trust myself. I wanted to love but I didn’t know how to do it safely.

In my current life, I have chosen not to have children. The fisherman had an opportunity to do it right and he didn’t. I haven’t forgiven him. I feel like I can only live my lives with minimum responsibility.

I need to pay more attention to people, realize their needs are important, and look at what they need. All the problems I have with my back are from that life. I have the feeling that no one has my back. I run away because I don’t trust myself.

My widowed sister-in-law is my mother in my current life. I felt so angry with my mother and I never understood why. I would think about pushing her down the stairs. I am hitting “cancel, clear, delete” to the curse I put on her when I was on the scaffold.

Nora blamed the fisherman for her decision not to have a family in her current life. She didn’t understand why the fisherman chose to isolate and hadn’t taken full responsibility for her decision to remain childless.

Her back pain is one issue she wishes to address. I suggest she go to the origin of the problem. Nora finds herself in an enclosed space. We discover she is experiencing a past life as a reckless man. He was engaged to marry but got tangled up with another woman, sabotaging his marriage plans and shortening his life.

I feel like I am in a box, a punishment box. There are two holes, and I am looking outside. I can see some trees.

Someone in authority didn’t like me and left me there. I feel like I am there forever. I cannot stand up, but I cannot sit down either. I feel very uncomfortable, and my back is feeling very bad. I feel so hopeless and sad.

I make suggestions to help Nora free this trapped spirit. Gradually, he realizes he died in the box and doesn’t need to be trapped there anymore. He goes to the light. Now Nora gains more information about that life.

That life ended much earlier than expected. From that experience, I lost trust and my soul got damaged. The life feels like a waste. But it is not a waste if I use it to remind me to not rush. That life and death made me a very determined person, more focused and serious about things. I was better at seeing what is important.

Decisions made in Nora’s previous lives did not solve her problems. In seeking to avoid more pain, she ended up taking a wrong turn. She drew no long-term comfort from calling on diabolical powers to damn her sister-in-law. With this curse, she abandoned her true self, those close to her, and her connection to Source. The fisherman couldn’t settle and spent his life alone, troubled by the guilt of failing his family. The reckless man was afraid to commit to his fiancée, and his infidelity cost him dearly. Being trapped in the box after death had a purpose. Nora’s soul carried a subconscious memory of the consequences of being reckless and impulsive, which manifested as physical pain in her back. Now that she knows how she created her back pain, she can use it as a signal to correct her actions, take responsibility in her relationships, and be more aware of the needs of others.

Nora’s lives demonstrate how our decisions have consequences that reverberate in subsequent lifetimes. Trying to avoid pain just takes us deeper into distress. We need to face, acknowledge, and work through our heartache and loss if we don’t want to slide into a path of more misery and turmoil.

Imprints Are Created During Incarnations

Some people wonder why we don’t make changes when we are in between our lives. Behavioral patterns and beliefs formed during our physical lives are imprinted at the earth level of vibration. When we want to change our views, we need to do so consciously in a physical body rather than just doing so energetically. Healing these patterns while we are incarnated imprints the change more robustly because we are connected to both physical and nonphysical worlds. Making positive changes while in the body deeply imprints the soul memory.

Some clients find that their current lives have been created specifically to change patterns that were imprinted during previous lives. Eva is one of these people. 

Eva experienced a life thousands of years ago when a catastrophic explosion occurred, destroying much of the earth and inundating what remained with devastating floods.

I just keep seeing the explosion over and over again. I get the same feeling I get when I visualize the future environment of our current world. This feeling has come from this [past life] explosion. I foresaw this coming, and it was a serious, huge devastation. I tried to warn the hierarchy, but they didn’t listen. It set up a chain reaction on the planet. Some did survive but not many. I didn’t survive.

Spirit guides take Eva through a process that heals her trauma from this past life, which includes beautiful visions and peaceful feelings. She receives the message to focus on her inner serenity and not worry about the bigger picture of the planet.

Before she came for the regression, Eva wanted to know her purpose in this life. She learns that her only purpose for her current life is to heal certain patterns of behavior, which were imprinted during numerous previous lives. In fact, her current life had been created specifically to heal these patterns.

The Benefit of Being Lost

We have seen how becoming lost can impact our future lives in a way that takes us deeper down a path of struggle and suffering. We can also carry over memories that are useful.

Nedina, a public servant, is a self-confident, pleasant lady who lives alone and loves animals. After I have instructed her to go through a tunnel into a past life, she reports what she sees.

It is daytime, and I am outside looking at the front of a house. It is bigger than a cottage and the walls are made of stone, sealed with mortar. It has a grey roof and a path leading to an ordinary timber door. I have no strong feelings about this place. I am an outsider.

I am an older woman with old legs, wearing comfortable black leather shoes and a knee-length skirt. I am eighty-three years old, and it is the early twentieth century.

I am walking along the path to the door, which has blue trimming. I feel I am entitled to open the door. It is cold inside. I see lace curtains, linoleum floors, a heavy round table, and old horsehair couches. There is nothing expensive here. The house is empty. People lived here once, but no one lives here now. There is an old parlor, but it is not inviting.

I ask if she has lived in this house. Her answer is instant and unexpected.

I died in a bed upstairs. Oh! I only just realized. I must be dead. I hadn’t known that before. I died without realizing I was dead. I am downstairs looking up the stairs to the room where my body was. I am detached from any emotions.

She says her name in this life had been Cari and, looking back, describes what Cari was like.

When I was alive, I was a quiet person with no strong emotions and not many friends. It was not an exciting life. I lived within the conventions of the time. I didn’t need to be strongly expressive and I accepted that. Now I realize there was some emptiness in my life. It was the era. I was a spinster living here, as it was the family home. I didn’t change it. It was a bland life.

I am hanging around. I had religious beliefs, but not to any depth. I just accepted things as they were.

I ask her what she is going to do now that she knows she died.

I feel a need to go out onto the road and walk on. I need to let go of the house, to let go of the life. That is a funny experience. It makes me see how much one can attach to walls, beds, stairs, and tables. That was all that I knew.

I am going out the door and closing it, walking down the cement path, out the gate, and heading off down the road. I feel that was the right thing to do. It feels good. Sunlight is coming through the trees. I don’t feel old anymore. There is energy in my step, and I feel younger and happy.

I am walking along pleasantly and enjoying the freedom. I see there is light up ahead, a strong light. I am very drawn to it. Someone is there with light all around them.

I suggest she open herself up so she can connect to this light and receive any forthcoming information.

I am in an expanding aura of light and it feels very warm. I need to stand and let it infuse me so I can go on. It has made me feel free. It is like it has dusted out the corners, cleared out anything unwanted from that life, realigned me, and retuned my vibration so I can now transition.

After walking along another path, she comes to a building made of marble.

There are people in there, older men. I am going in. They are very quiet, sitting around in chairs. They have been waiting for me.

They tell me that past life was about loving others, but Cari was unable to step outside of the social structure. She was restricted. The plan was to have courage and break through.

I chose to stay in that house and restrict my life. It was about feeling safe. There was no depth to relationships or anything. Everything was a bit superficial and I was able to hide behind the social norms. I was afraid.

The church, the fire and brimstone. I believed it. One had to do one’s duty. The church triggered my fear and insecurity, then fed it.

I was a young child, about three, and something scared me. I see a minister from the church. He was very harsh with me. Oh my God! They were my parents. My father was the minister, and he was yelling at me. I lived in that house all my life, and the way I lived my life was related to the way he frightened me at age three. It was an obstacle put in my way, but I didn’t overcome it and I didn’t expand my heart.

I ask if Cari’s life has influenced her current life as Nedina. Nedina was bullied terribly in her current life as a child, but in adulthood would not stand for any bullying at all. Nedina moves her focus to her current life.

That is why I was so determined not to let the bullies keep me down. I have a sense of it now. Even when I was being bullied as a child, I knew I was going to stop that as soon as I could. I had that determination even then.

Nedina continues but describes Cari’s experiences in the third person when I ask if Cari was lost until now.

Yes. Even in life, Cari was not functioning fully, just going through the motions—detached, but not in a good way.

For Cari, being stuck after she died emphasized the hollowness of her life. Now I don’t need it anymore. Going through that purification with the light-being means it is finished.

Isn’t that amazing! That life gave me the understanding that if you let fear govern you, there is emptiness, narrowness, and no expansion. A hollow life. That understanding evolved from that past life. It was just there. After eighty years of that, I knew how empty your life would be if you did not address it. Cari’s life was meant to be. Such a dull life but such a useful life. It wasn’t a waste.

In my current life, when a bully has tried to manipulate me, I will not buy into it. Others do, but not me. I attack bullies full on. As I have matured, I can look at a bully and see that they came from a place of imbalance.

Nedina’s case demonstrates how being lost can accelerate our growth. Cari was lost during her life and after her death, feeling that her father’s bullying had driven her to live a small, confined life. This feeling was made available to Nedina in her current life, and she used it to develop an inner strength, refusing to put up with bullies.

Conclusion

Being lost can take us deeper into strife and suffering. But if we stay connected, we can decide to utilize a troubled past life to make us stronger.

We start our lives as innocent babies, but we do not stay that way. In our current lives, we face challenges that surface subconscious memories of the past. Because we carry the energy of lost spirits, our reaction to some situations can be much more intense than is normally warranted. Our most vigorous and extreme reactions are worth noting. Some trauma from the past may have been triggered, manifesting in our current life. When a human spirit doesn’t go home after death, the energy of that life remains unresolved and still accessible.

The emotional trauma we carry into subsequent lives demands our attention. This is why many of my clients remember lives in which they died suddenly—because such lives have so much to teach us. If we refuse to listen when past life traumas flare up in our current life, we condemn ourselves to keep playing out our adopted patterns of behavior until we finally wake up.

In the next three chapters, we explore the journeys of four souls who did decide to step bravely into their dark night of the soul.